(Something I posted on another site today, maybe this will say something to someone here)…

For 2009, I recommend that both men and women who are looking for that “special one,” to raise their expectations. I know I am.

Don’t hope, but KNOW that your partner will be sexy and good looking. I don’t mean good looking like GQ or sexy like Maxim, because those “models” rarely exist in everyday life. Know that you will find something special about your partner, which looks good to you and something that no one else has. And sexy is what you make your partner feel like in intimate situations. If looking sexy is your only gauge to sexuality, then you really don’t have an emotional connection to your lover. Looking sexy and being sexy is like night and day.

Don’t hope, but KNOW your partner will be loving. Loving what you both have, not what you both want. What you see in the first few moments of a new relationship is usually what you will be getting for the long term. If adjustments need to be made, in a honest relationship, most of the time they will happen on their own.

Don’t hope, but KNOW your partner will be perfect. Perfect for you, not for your family or friends, not for some preconceived Hollywood fiction or not for some “Penthouse Forum” entry. Don’t bring these outside influences with you on a date or into your personal space, they will only get in the way of your heart.

Don’t hope, but KNOW that your relationship will be like a romance novel and then laugh with each other when that doesn’t happen. There is a difference between being serious and taking each other too seriously.

I don’t think these needs have changed much since I was born in 1952, but I do believe that we have lost sight of what really matters. I feel many men and women have let themselves be taken hostage by shallow ideas, valueless expectations and useless advice.