re: #333 Alouette
The sisterhood at my congregation made showers for my two oldest daughters, and my daughters-in-law had showers made for them by their friends, (which I did not attend, being from out of town)
I never had a bridal shower, or a baby shower, or a bat mitzvah.
I had a bat mitvah, and a bachelorette evening, although that was extremely relaxed. (Pizza. Wine. Raunchy movies. Oh, and we watched “Bride and Prejudice”, cause it’s a great wedding movie.)
We didn’t do a shower.